Friendship: Do or Do Not, There Is No Try

Here's the thing... I recently saw  something on the internet that said "I'm too amazing, beautiful, and I have too much to offer to wait for you to notice me". It was something around those lines and then I saw another quote picture thingy that was on Facebook saying something about how "There are thousands of people on this planet and I don't need to waste time on you." You get the idea. Well I'm here to say something different. People take work. I know it's mostly talking about waiting for a romantic interest but it still creates a negative attitude that can be picked up. So how about we try to brighten up this view a little? 


It's not fair to just give up on people because they haven't texted you back or because you haven't seen them in a month. Seriously, people used to write letters to each other and that was how they got to know one another. The truth is that everyone on this planet is worth your time. In order to build strong relationships or any kind of friendship for that matter takes work.

I have a feeling that we have forgotten that fact. The majority of us grow up and for as long as we can remember we have been sent places where we were surrounded by other people. Kindergarten starts when we are six years old and most of us went to pre-school or something similar before that. This continues until we are at least eighteen years old. For those who go to college this process continues for a few more years. But what happens when that process is suddenly stopped. Post graduation for many people is a struggle and can be a depressing time. Perhaps, it is due to the fact that we are so used to just showing up to school and automatically our friends are there. We don't have to call to make sure they'll be at school, we don't have to worry about not seeing them for an extended period of time. Every Monday through Friday we know that we will see them for as long as school is in session. Once school ends that all changes. That is where the work has to begin. If you're like me look at the relationships that fell apart as soon as school was taken out of the equation. It has been a lot harder to maintain half of the relationships that once came so easily.

Here's my point. Work at it. If you haven't heard from someone then call them. If you want someone to invite you somewhere then invite them instead. Don't sit around expecting someone to automatically show up, the odds are that they are doing exactly the same thing. Relationships take time effort and thought. We have to be willing to give of our own time to be with people. That means sacrificing your favorite show. Rather than checking Facebook to see what people are doing, call them. You don't have to talk to someone for an hour. A quick ten minute conversation just to say hello is perfectly fine. Give of yourself if you wish others to do the same. Relationships go both ways, but if you put in the effort and show someone that they are worth your time they'll be far more inclined to do the same. 

Get out there and show someone you care. 
Be The Light